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Why is Change so Hard? The Truth

The Challenge of Change: Embracing Growth and Transformation


I remember attending a Tony Robbins event, where a profound statement stuck with me:


"Change happens when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change." 


This got me thinking about the transformative power of pain and how it often acts as the catalyst for significant life changes. As someone deeply invested in self-improvement, I've encountered the challenge of navigating the space between overcoming difficulties and striving for further personal development. I was also inspired from Dr Joe Dispenza's 7 steps to change, taken from his book, Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself.

In today's blog post, let's explore the complexities of change, why it can be a daunting task, and how we can make this process more manageable. 


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Understanding the Tug-of-War: Change vs. Comfort


Let's be honest, change is hard.


However, life is inherently about change, from the shifting seasons to the constant regeneration of our body's cells. Yet, paradoxically, we often crave the comfort of the familiar. Renowned hypnotherapy teacher Marisa Peer emphasizes our mind's affinity for the familiar, rooted in conditioned belief patterns and experiences.

This resistance to change can be evident in various aspects of life, from relationships to career paths. The allure of the familiar, even if imperfect, can overshadow the discomfort associated with making changes. I've personally witnessed this struggle in my own life and realized that significant transformations often arise during moments of profound pain or challenge.


Embracing Change: A Personal Journey


One of the most pivotal moments in my life occurred when a close friend tragically took his own life. This heartbreaking experience served as a wake-up call, prompting me to reevaluate my life's purpose and direction. It propelled me onto a path of self-discovery, self-improvement, and a commitment to helping others navigate their journeys.

However, waiting for such traumatic events to instigate change is neither practical nor desirable. Ideally, we should seek to initiate change through inspiration, making adjustments to our mindset, habits, and subconscious programming. But how can we overcome the inherent difficulty of change?


Why Change Feels Like an Uphill Battle


Change often elicits fear, and one major factor contributing to this fear is the dread of failure. Staying the same provides a comfort zone where excuses and limiting beliefs can thrive. The fear of failure can keep us playing it safe, avoiding discomfort, and preventing us from realizing our full potential.

Upon reflecting on my values, I discovered a delicate balance between two core aspects of my being: wellness and self-improvement. While wellness represents comfort and calmness, self-improvement demands stepping into discomfort, akin to the stress applied during physical growth in the gym. Understanding this balance is crucial to navigating the interplay of comfort and growth.


Navigating the Path to Change: Practical Steps


Self-Reflection and Observation: Begin by observing your day-to-day life, thoughts, and habits. Spend time in quiet reflection, perhaps through meditation or nature walks, without judgment. This initial phase is about curiosity and awareness.

Identify Core Values: Use a deep values process to identify what truly matters to you. Set meaningful goals aligned with your values, ensuring they reflect what is genuinely important in your life.

Confront the Fear of Failure: Acknowledge and confront the fear of failure. Recognize that staying the same might provide temporary safety but limits your potential for growth and fulfillment.

Shedding Old Identities: Embrace the idea of letting go and shedding old identities or self-images that no longer serve you. This internal transformation is essential for personal evolution.

Crafting the New You: With newfound awareness and goals, embark on a journey of crafting the new version of yourself. Utilize habits, strategies, and surround yourself with the right support system.


Why Change is So Hard


Change is an inevitable part of life, and while it can be challenging, it also presents opportunities for growth and self-discovery. By understanding the reluctance to change, confronting fears, and taking practical steps towards personal evolution, we can navigate this transformative journey with purpose and resilience.

If you have any questions or would like assistance on your personal growth journey, feel free to leave a comment below or book a complimentary call with me. Here's to unlocking the door to personal growth and embracing the beautiful journey of becoming the best version of yourself. Thanks for reading!

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Paul Wadsworth

Paul Wadsworth is a transformational mind, body, and lifestyle coach in Vancouver BC. He helps people worldwide to reinvent themselves physically, mentally, and emotionally, so they can live with more energy, confidence, and clarity.

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