The Biggest Lesson I Learned in Self-Improvement
As someone who has a deep passion for self-improvement, I'm constantly seeking new ways to learn, grow and become a better version of myself. However, over the years, I've realized that this curiosity and desire for more growth can often lead you down rabbit holes. Perhaps you can relate? You might read one or two great books, and then months later, the books pile up and you listen to every podcast you can find.
Today, I wanted to share with you the biggest lesson that I have learned over the past 12 years plus on my journey of self-improvement.
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Can you get too much personal development?
While it's great to seek new information and to look to grow in different aspects of life, oftentimes, we're so focused on looking for something new that we forget to reflect on what we already have. This also makes it harder to retain some of the great things that we’ve already discovered. Lately, I've been doing a lot of reflecting, and I wanted to share these with you.
I believe that there does come a time when we can have too much information. It’s not that the information is bad, but it’s the implementation that is important. When we consume content from such a wide variety of sources, taking on various opinions and perspectives, it just leaves us more confused.
The thing that changed it all
There's been one thing that's been standing out above everything else, and that's what I wanted to share with you in this article. Maybe you already know what it is, and I truly believe that this is the biggest thing that can change your life...
The great teachers express the same common message
Bob Proctor told me that I need to forget my current circumstances and dream big, and picture the future I want.
Dr. Joe Dispenza talks about how we need to change our energy to change our lives, and most people are living on a record of the past.
Neville Goddard said we need to assume the feeling of the wish fulfilled.
Abraham Hicks, who talks about the law of attraction and the vortex, talks about the most important thing we need to do is to focus on what feels good. We need to stop beating the drum of the thing that we don't want. We need to stop telling the same stories, the same patterns of the things we don't want, and disconnect from that. We need to imagine the feeling of the thing that we want, the desire that we're going to achieve.
This is the big lesson that is coming up in so many of these teachers...
We need to disconnect from our current reality/circumstances and focus on the feeling of the thing that we want to happen.
However, one of the challenges with this is that we live in this physical world where we're taking information through our senses and we're reacting and responding based on what's happening in this physical reality.
Ultimately, it's about shifting identity and creating a new version of who we want to be.
Our beliefs shape our world
If we've had an experience that didn't go so well, and we've got this story in this belief pattern around that, we're affirming this as the truth. But remember, a belief is just a thought that you keep thinking. Part of this change is about being able to disconnect from your current reality. The experience of our lives is based on the perceptions that we have in our minds. This is influenced by our programming, conditioning, and our belief systems, which are formed from a young age in our lives and through our life experiences. This gives us our model of the world and how we see things, and this impacts our thought patterns, our emotions, our behaviors, and ultimately the results in our life.
Let's say there are all these problems happening in our physical world, or what we perceive to be problems, and we're only seeing it through that lens. It's going to be very difficult for us to achieve the things that we're looking to achieve because we're stuck in those patterns of limitation, those old stories, those old paradigms, and ultimately, we need to shift those. We need to rewrite the story, and one way you can do this is to create your own audio affirmations.
Of course, this isn't intentional and, to a large degree, it's quite natural for our minds to look for evidence to support our beliefs. But the key is to become aware of these beliefs and actively work to change them. This requires a conscious effort to shift our focus and choose thoughts and beliefs that align with the reality we want to create.
It's also important to note that this process is not a one-time thing. It's an ongoing journey of self-discovery and growth. It takes time, patience, and persistence to rewire our brains and shift our belief patterns. But the results are worth it.
The biggest lesson I’ve learned from self-improvement
There are many incredible ideas, lessons, and concepts in the world of self-improvement. But in a world where we’re reacting and making decisions based on our present experience, it’s the disconnecting from reality that is the key to making changes. You know how the famous quote goes. "If you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting what you’ve always gotten."
We need to change the inside to change the outside circumstances of our life.